Relationship with a partner is much deeper, more meaningful and hence more challenging than any other relationships.
When couples start dating, they are excited, feeling in love, and when the bond between them gets stronger, they start to be the ‘mirror’ for each other, and the more they reflect on each other, the more challenging their relationship become due to moments of anger, frustration, losing the spark that used to be there and other issues that come up as a result of that.
When couples are lacking the right communication skills, they get triggered because they don’t know exactly what bothers them, what they truly need, and how to communicate it effectively. Here, they may feel lost or stuck and not sure how to move forward in order to have breakthrough, get closer with each other, and feel in love again.
One of the things I encourage couples to do is to sit with the situation that challenges them and write down why they feel challenged; what they judge their partner for; and what needs to be done or said in order to shift the situation so both of them are happy and satisfied. (Most of the time they don’t know the answer for at least 2 questions).
Knowing how to communicate clearly and lovingly without any judgement makes each of you responsible for the success of your relationship. When that happens, you start enjoying each other like never before and now with more depth and intimacy.
Spending quality time together and doing activities you both enjoy will strengthen your bond and create shared memories. Encouraging your partner’s goals and dreams, and being there for them during tough times; focusing on finding solutions rather than placing blame; building and maintaining trust through honesty and transparency are just few more ways to better and deepen your relationships with each other.
Relationships evolve, and it’s important to grow together. Regularly check in with each other about your relationship and make adjustments as needed.
Keep the balance between you and your partner as much as you can (unless one of you is sick and needs to rest). You are 50% of the deal as well as your partner. Be there for them 100%, and they will be there for you fully.
Yours,
Rivka
